About Mother-in-laws: Let’s clarify a post I made recently

It doesn’t matter what you think, a mother-in-law (MIL) CANNOT take over the running of the home of her son while the son’s wife is there. The MIL must maintain the restrained presence of a special guest of honor.

I had to make this clarification because I could read all manner of comments from men suggesting that their mothers are the madams of their houses, which showed they totally misunderstood my post. Your mother cannot be the lady of your house, even if you’re single. Do you sleep with your mum? Does she sleep in your bedroom? It is wrong to allow your mother to push your wife aside and begin to run your home.

Indeed, when I saw everybody liking my post I became concerned. Anytime I see too many people agreeing with me, I feel disturbed.

If you are not ready to marry, don’t marry. But if you marry, accept the meaning and implication of your marriage. If your mother is still the woman in your life, you cannot say you’re married or that you’re a grown adult.

Not just coming over and taking over your home, your mother is not the woman with final say on what happens in your house. She can’t be. Even those of you that claim to be Christians don’t understand the Bible. “Respect and honor your parents” does not mean your mother can shove your wife aside.

I read some of the men threatening to throw the wife out of the house if she asks the mother to leave. I pity them because they already condemned themselves to marrying a poor uneducated and unemployed wife whom they can enslave. Otherwise, if they marry their equal, how can they throw them out. Instead, they will be leaving with their mothers.

Just respect and honor your parents, don’t bring your mother to push your wife away. And please don’t come to DPA and threaten to throw your wife out. We are not comfortable with that. That means that you’re using our platform to propagate an idea we condemn. We won’t accept that.

If you are a mother and you’re visiting your son and his wife, and the wife asks when you are living, that is after you have stayed 6 months, you should not get offended. It is a legitimate question. It may not be diplomatic for her to ask you in such a direct manner. But you can’t get offended.

No home or family can be peaceful or prosperous if you do not accord every member the respect and honor due to him or her. Respect and honor your parents.