February 6, 2020

  Four years ago, DPA shocked Nigerians when it declared that it was better to get a divorce than to die trying to stay married. That idea did not go down well with many Nigerians. And in the toxic atmosphere of social media, many took up arms to fight DPA. They ganged up to smear  the Founder of DPA and to destroy DPA. When all their efforts failed, they accused DPA leadership of destroying families. They called DPA anti-Christ, anti-God. They quoted the Bible wrongly to support the idea that there should be no divorce under any circumstance. But look at the statistics: (1) On February 5, 2020, Abuja High Court convicted and sentenced Eric Chigbor to death by hanging for killing his wife Jessica in an act of domestic violence. (2) On February 3, 2020, "a 17-year-old housewife, Rabi Rabi’u, who stabbed her husband, Shamsu Salisu, to death in Katsina State last Wednesday, has explained that a misunderstanding on who should first charge their mobile telephone led to a scuffle in which he died". She was convicted and sentenced to death. (3) On January 21, 2020, Maryam Sanda Bello, was convicted and sentenced to death by an Abuja High Court for killing her husband in an act of domestic violence. Judgment in these three cases occurred within the last two weeks in only two cities, out of hundreds of cities in Nigeria. You can easily know that in a year and all over the country you will have thousands of people dead and dying just because they did not get a divorce when they ought to. In the three cases listed above, three people are dead already and three more people are scheduled to die also. That makes it six people to die in other to avoid divorcing three marriages. In order words, saving 3 marriages became more important than saving 6 lives. Compare the above with a case in Enugu yesterday. The High Court of Enugu State granted divorce to a lady. Her husband abandoned her and their children and abused her for years. She came to DPA. We saw that the marriage was irretrievably broken. We assisted her. She got divorce yesterday. Today she is alive and her husband (now ex husband) is alive. Not a single life was lost. So we helped destroy one marriage in order to save two lives. But our opponents and attackers would rather lose two lives in order to save one marriage. Unfortunately, you can't save any marriage by losing a life. Well, it is up to you to agree with us or not. There is only one thing we will never accept from you - do not come into this forum to insult us. We want to work with like-minded people in DPA. We don't need the distracting and annoying people who seek to detail our mission. We have a mission, after all.   NOTE: The likely reason a police officer would kill a suspect in his custody is to cover up the fact that the officer was involved in the crime.